A Guide for Picking a Wedding Date
Once the question has been popped, one of the first wedding day topics a newly engaged couple typically discusses is, “What day should we get married?” This is a particularly important discussion since it sets the tone for your entire wedding—no pressure!
But don’t panic; we’ve created a comprehensive guide to help you narrow down the best date for your wedding, based on your vision, needs, goals, and budget.
Consult with Your Partner
When picking a wedding date, you should work with your partner to narrow down your choices. Maybe they have a date in mind, and maybe they have dates that they absolutely do not want for their wedding day.
Throughout your search for the perfect wedding date, you must be willing to compromise so you can settle on a day that you’ll both be happy with.
Look at Your Schedules
The best way to start choosing when to get married is to determine when you can’t get married. So look at your schedules and block off any dates on the calendar that you can’t get married due to busy work or school schedules, personal obligations, appointments, scheduled events, etc.
Are There Any Special Dates That Either of You Find Meaningful?
Maybe you want to get married on the anniversary of your first date, the day you first met, or the day you got engaged.
Other meaningful dates could be in honour of a loved one who passed away, such as their birthday. Or it could be the anniversary of your parents’ or grandparents’ wedding day.
You may be interested in picking a wedding date based on astrology or numerology. Maybe you want a lucky number wedding date.
So if astrology is something that sways your decisions, consider the fact that your wedding date will have a zodiac sign that comes with specific characteristics—e.g., Libra (September 23 to October 22) is a sign of balance.
You may also want to avoid wedding dates when Mercury and Venus are in retrograde due to the communication mishaps that are said to be common during this time.
Do Either of You See Yourselves Getting Married During a Particular Season or Month?
When picking a wedding date, imagine how your perfect wedding day looks. Are you walking amongst lush gardens, warm breezes, fall colours, or snow blanketing the ground? How you envision the setting of your wedding will help you narrow down the season and the month in which you want to get married.
Pick a Season
The most popular months to get married are June, September, and October due to the beautiful weather in early summer and fall.
While the weather might be more beautiful during these months, the busy wedding season tends to be more expensive for venues and vendors. And you’ll have to book everything well in advance since their availability will be limited during this time.
What the Off Seasons Are
January and March are the least popular months to get married since the weather is bad and most people don’t want to get married in winter unless it’s a destination wedding. Florist costs also tend to be extremely expensive in the winter.
But vendor and venue rental costs tend to be lower, and there are more dates available for venues and vendors during the wedding off-season. So if you do want an off-season wedding, you’ll likely have less trouble booking vendors and venues for your preferred date, and you’ll get to save on most of the costs.
Do You Want to Be Married Indoors or Out?
If you want an outdoor wedding, research the weather patterns for that time of year. And make sure you have a plan B in case the weather is unfavourable on your wedding day—e.g., tents or a neighbouring indoor venue you can easily move the party indoors.
If you want to get married outdoors in chilly weather, consider providing options to keep your guests warm, such as throws, hot chocolate, and heaters.
But if you want an indoor wedding, the weather won’t affect your guests much. It will only affect your photos if you have them taken outdoors.
People often ask, what is the best time of day to get married in September? And what is the best time of day to get married in October?
While the time of day is completely up to you, you should aim to get married before the sun sets so you can have photos taken outdoors while the sun is still out. Remember, the sun sets earlier in the fall, so also keep that time in mind when planning a fall wedding.
Things to Consider
Costs of Getting Married During a Certain Time
Getting married during the most popular months and days of the week will be more expensive than other times. For example, the venue rental for a weekday wedding will be less expensive than on the weekend, with Saturday being the most expensive day.
The same goes for popular wedding months and holidays. If you want to get married on a day that is in high demand for venues and vendors, be prepared to fork out more money.
Although Saturday is the most expensive day to get married, it is considered the best day of the week to get married since it’s more convenient for everyone. Most people don’t have to work on the weekend, so travelling to a wedding and staying out late on a Saturday night is possible.
How Long You Plan Your Engagement to Be
The majority of engagements last at least one year, which should give you enough time to plan a wedding. But you don’t have to get married exactly one year after your engagement. You could get married six months after, or two years after. It’s up to you
Timeline for Your Wedding Dress
You will want to give yourself enough time to find the perfect wedding dress. And you’ll also have to allow enough time for fittings and alterations. Some custom wedding dresses can take a year to complete, while others take at least a few months before your dress looks and fits just right.
The Vendor’s Schedule
When shopping for vendors and venues, ask what dates are available during the month you’ve chosen to get married. Some vendors may not be available at all, so it’s important to ask and shop around to book vendors for your big day.
You don’t want to be limited for vendors or have to settle, so consider being flexible with the dates.
Flexibility Goes a Long Way
It’s wise to be flexible with your wedding dates—e.g., have a backup date in mind—in case your preferred date won’t work for must-have guests, your chosen venues, or vendors. Otherwise, you’ll have to be flexible with your venue, vendors, and guest attendance if you are set on one date.
Plan around the Honeymoon
Most newlyweds take their honeymoon for a week or two after their wedding. So be sure to plan for your honeymoon as well. If you can only take off time from work during a certain time of year, you’ll have to plan accordingly.
If you’re planning a destination wedding, you’ll likely want to go in the winter or spring. And you’ll want to stay at the destination for a week after your guests leave.
Check with Key Members of Your Wedding Party and Important Guests
Once you’ve chosen a date, you will want to inform the important guests and those in your wedding party to give them advanced notice so they can plan to be there. If for some reason all the important people can’t make it for one date, propose an alternative date. But don’t burn yourself out trying to accommodate everyone!
If anyone gives you a hard time, remember to tell them, “This is MY wedding date,” emphasizing that it’s your day, not theirs.
And resist the urge to ask people for their opinions or if they “approve” of your wedding date. The fewer people who give input on your wedding date, the smoother the planning will go for you.
Once you’ve found the best day to get married, you can start enjoying the fun and exciting time leading up to your big day.